Not going coronavirus outbreak alone: Some find quarantine buddies to lessen isolation
They call themselves the quarantine gang.
They are not blood-related. They are not romantic partners. They are friends brought together by the unprecedented restrictions on face-to-face contact that have upended life across America to slow the spread of the novel coronavirus.
The foursome - a songwriter, a therapist and two journalists - has decided to be a family, of sorts, in a situation no one could have imagined a few months ago. They share meals, huddle together on the couch strumming guitars, exercise together, even hug.
All four are single. The thought of weeks and potentially months alone was too much to bear. So they made a pact. They would see each other, and only each other.
They are not the only ones creating impromptu families in the time of the coronavirus. People who live alone are especially tempted to acquire a quarantine buddy or two, for mutual aid as well as for human contact.
Under stay-at-home orders from Los Angeles city and county officials, people should go out as little as possible, and group gatherings are forbidden. Quarantine buddy arrangements are sometimes met with stern disapproval from those who adhere to a traditional definition of family.
Some public health experts emphasize the increased risk of contagion that comes with a larger social circle. Others say that forming self-contained units is an acceptable way to lessen the psychological stresses of solitude.
In a city like Los Angeles, where people arrive from all over the world to make it in creative industries, friends often serve as surrogate families for those far from home.
Laurie Penny, a television writer and journalist from England, shares her Silver Lake house with a roommate, songwriter Natti Vogel. Another member of the quarantine gang lives nearby, with the fourth in West Hollywood.
"If I was by myself out here in L.A., so far from my family, I think I would have gone a bit bonkers," said Penny, 33.
Like many quarantine circles, this one has unwritten rules. Wear gloves when you press the crosswalk button. Keep at least six feet away from anyone outside the group. If you are thinking of doing something potentially risky, like a boxing workout with a friend, consult the others.
The boxing was unanimously rejected, as was a request to host someone who needed a place to stay. Besides the quarantine gang, they refer to themselves as the pod, los quarantinos or fourcan (a play on toucan).
The four had already been in close contact when stay-at-home orders came down from the governor and the mayor. All are musicians and had been filming a music video together. They had also been back and forth between each other's apartments after Penny and Vogel got bedbugs.
Sam Braslow, a freelance journalist, considered three options: Move in with his parents and 92-year-old grandfather, isolate himself in his studio apartment or throw in his lot with his three friends.
Staying with his biological family would have felt like regressing to childhood, with all-too-predictable annoyances ensuing.
"If I had to choose who to go crazy with, I would rather do it with my more intentional family," said Braslow, 26. "There's something novel about this. It's an adventure."
A small group of people does not have to be blood-related to safely practice social isolation, said Jeffrey Martin, an internist and professor of epidemiology and biostatistics at UC San Francisco.
If members live in separate houses, they can reduce risk by having the same person always get groceries for the whole group and by receiving deliveries at only one address, he said.
As the crisis wears on, if people are completely isolated, they could act out in ways more damaging than associating with the same few individuals, Martin said.
"This is all about limiting the number of new contacts in your life," Martin said. "Of those people who you contact, they are a product of all their contacts. If you can keep that circle small, it doesn't matter if you're related or not."
It is impossible for all Americans to lock themselves in a room for weeks, so people are figuring out their own boundaries, said Howard Forman, a professor of diagnostic radiology, public health and economics and management at Yale University.
Over a long period of time, people will need some human contact, he said. He himself lives alone and has hung out with several friends in recent days - from a distance of at least six feet, which he recommends for all quarantine buddies. He works as an emergency room radiologist and looks forward to the social interaction on his shifts.
"It's certainly better to be in a room with someone than alone with Zoom constantly," said Forman, referring to the video-communication service. "I don't see that as conveying risk. But I don't get why they wouldn't want to maintain social distancing."
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